Mothers & Daughters
"Gratitude is the memory of the
~ Jean Baptiste Massieu
The relationship of mothers and daughters holds all the dimensions of
the universe in its form and character. Weddings reveal the strengths
and weaknesses, the tone and temperament of this primal relationship.
The nature of ritual has in its design a way to touch our most tender
places. Therefore, moving through the process of wedding planning can
bring up emotional scars, sensitive areas ready to be healed. Weddings
are a great opportunity to heal hurts and complete unfulfilled
expectations from the past, forgiving whatever stands in the way of our
expression of deep gratitude.
Everything in the
universe has a tone or vibration uniquely its own—from people, to rocks,
to emotions—and gratitude has the highest vibration, even more than
love. “A thankful heart is not only the greatest of all virtues, but the
parent of all other virtues,” the Roman philosopher, Cicero, said over
2000 years ago. When we express gratitude, we are more capable of making
deeper connections, affecting profound changes, and removing any blocks
that keep us from love.
Weddings offer the possibility for mothers and daughters to deepen or
restore their connection to each other through participating in
activities that have the quality of ritual. One hundred years ago this
may have happened through the act of making a gown together; two hundred
years ago it may have been the shared experience of stitching trousseau
linens for the bride’s new home; today it may be venturing out to try
on dresses with each other—leaving judgment at home and being okay with
whatever is selected.
daughters are perhaps the most powerful yet delicate of couples. Even
without words, it’s a relationship that communicates beyond knowing and
reason into the language of the wise and mysterious. One way to
strengthen and soften this connection is to take author Stephen Levine’s
advice to heart: “Go to the truth beyond the mind. Love is the bridge.”
And gratitude leads the way. End of Article
© 2003 Cornelia Powell, all rights reserved.
[This is an excerpt from Cornelia's book-in-progress, Weddings of Grace: The Bride You Want to Be,
The Woman You Become—the inspiration for this online magazine.]
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